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What advice would you give to someone who feels as though their friend and themself are drifting apart

-Ariela Morfin 

 

Dear Ariela,

Sometimes friends will drift apart. There really isn’t anything you can do, especially in high school. I have several friends that I’m not really friends with anymore because as soon as high school started we both figured out our differences and went separate ways.

Although, if you are still friends with this person, and you feel this way. Talk to that person. Tell them how you’ve been feeling and see if you can fix it before it gets too broken. 

 

      Sincerely, 

               Kassi

 

What‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌best‌ ‌way‌ ‌to‌ ‌handle‌ ‌a‌ ‌breakup?‌ ‌

-Keely‌ ‌Wayment‌ ‌

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Dear‌ ‌Keely,‌ ‌ ‌

Honestly,‌ ‌the‌ ‌best‌ ‌and‌ ‌healthiest‌ ‌way‌ ‌to‌ ‌handle‌ ‌a‌ ‌breakup‌ ‌is‌ ‌to‌ ‌surround‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌with‌ ‌a‌ ‌

few‌ ‌close‌ ‌friends.‌ ‌People‌ ‌who‌ ‌will‌ ‌really‌ ‌be‌ ‌there‌ ‌for‌ ‌you‌ ‌and‌ ‌make‌ ‌you‌ ‌happy.‌ ‌Break‌ ‌ups‌ ‌can‌ ‌be‌ ‌

messy,‌ ‌so‌ ‌I‌ ‌would‌ ‌only‌ ‌surround‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌with‌ ‌maybe‌ ‌1‌ ‌or‌ ‌2‌ ‌friends.‌ ‌Have‌ ‌them‌ ‌talk‌ ‌about‌ ‌things‌ ‌

other‌ ‌than‌ ‌how‌ ‌dumb‌ ‌that‌ ‌boy‌ ‌is,‌ ‌how‌ ‌badly‌ ‌they‌ ‌want‌ ‌to‌ ‌hurt‌ ‌him‌ ‌for‌ ‌hurting‌ ‌you,‌ ‌and‌ ‌things‌ ‌like‌ ‌

that.‌ ‌Also‌ ‌have‌ ‌them‌ ‌avoid‌ ‌talking‌ ‌about‌ ‌drama,‌ ‌other‌ ‌guys,‌ ‌and‌ ‌things‌ ‌that‌ ‌will‌ ‌remind‌ ‌you‌ ‌of‌ ‌

your‌ ‌ex.‌ ‌ ‌

Being‌ ‌alone‌ ‌isn’t‌ ‌really‌ ‌a‌ ‌good‌ ‌idea,‌ ‌because‌ ‌then‌ ‌you‌ ‌can‌ ‌get‌ ‌carried‌ ‌away‌ ‌with‌ ‌your‌ ‌

thoughts.‌ ‌But‌ ‌honestly,‌ ‌give‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌a‌ ‌day‌ ‌to‌ ‌just‌ ‌relax,‌ ‌have‌ ‌some‌ ‌time‌ ‌to‌ ‌yourself,‌ ‌maybe‌ ‌eat‌ ‌a‌ ‌

whole‌ ‌pint‌ ‌of‌ ‌ice‌ ‌cream‌ ‌(or‌ ‌two,‌ ‌no‌ ‌one‌ ‌is‌ ‌judging,)‌ ‌and‌ ‌just‌ ‌curl‌ ‌up‌ ‌with‌ ‌your‌ ‌favorite‌ ‌blanket,‌ ‌and‌ ‌

watch‌ ‌comedy‌ ‌movies,‌ ‌or‌ ‌something‌ ‌that‌ ‌will‌ ‌make‌ ‌you‌ ‌smile.‌ ‌ ‌

All‌ ‌in‌ ‌all,‌ ‌it‌ ‌really‌ ‌just‌ ‌depends‌ ‌on‌ ‌how‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌feeling‌ ‌and‌ ‌if‌ ‌you‌ ‌want‌ ‌to‌ ‌be‌ ‌near‌ ‌people‌ ‌or‌ ‌

not.‌ ‌But‌ ‌it‌ ‌really‌ ‌isn’t‌ ‌healthy‌ ‌to‌ ‌just‌ ‌lay‌ ‌in‌ ‌bed‌ ‌all‌ ‌the‌ ‌time.‌ ‌Give‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌a‌ ‌day,‌ ‌see‌ ‌how‌ ‌you‌ ‌feel,‌ ‌

and‌ ‌then‌ ‌ease‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌back‌ ‌into‌ ‌your‌ ‌daily‌ ‌routine.‌ ‌Also,‌ ‌it‌ ‌is‌ ‌okay‌ ‌to‌ ‌cry,‌ ‌don’t‌ ‌hold‌ ‌anything‌ ‌in.‌ ‌ ‌

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      ‌Sincerely,‌ ‌

               ‌Kassi‌

 

Do you think the amount of time you’ve known each other really makes a big difference in friendships or relationships? For example, do you think a friend you have known for a long time is automatically better than a friend that you made recently? 

-Lillianee Babcock

 

Dear Lillianee, 

    It’s really up to you on how important a friendship is for you. Because I have a friend who I’ve known since first grade, and she is like my best friend. We know everything about each other. However, I do have two other friends that I’ve known for only 3 or 4 years, and they hold the same value to me as my friend from first grade. 

     Like I said, it really just depends on how much value you would put to a person. How I determine a good friend is someone who is there for you, who doesn’t judge you, who cares for you, and things like that. 

Sincerely,

                   Kassi

 

What do you do when your friend no longer talks to you?

-Derek Rendon

 

Dear Derek,

    There are two ways you can approach this situation. The first way is try to talk to them, ask them if there was anything you did wrong (and if there is, ask how you can fix things,) if there isn’t anything, maybe ask them if there is something going on at home, or at school. If they don’t wanna talk about it, just be there for them. Try not to be pushy about wanting to know what’s going on, give them some time, and (when they’re ready) they will come to you.

      The second way is, try to talk to them, but if they refuse to, just walk away. This is one of those situations where you really don’t want to be pushy. By being pushy in this situation you could risk making things worse. Also avoid being rude and overbearing. By them not talking to you is their way of showing you that they need space. They will come talk to you when they’re ready and if they don’t then they weren’t really a good friend. Because good friends will talk things out and fix things. But you also have to remember, you can’t fix things that don’t want to be fixed. 

 

             Sincerely,

                       Kassi